Can't Just Be Friends

An ex-boyfriend contacted me a few weeks ago and asked me to dinner. We've remained friends since we've broken up (4 years ago), and we have gotten together once since I moved here.

What a mistake this was. He came over, we went out to dinner. I should have seen the warning signs when he took my hand and gave me a hug before we left the restaurant. He dropped me off at my place and I invited him in. It seemed rude to just send him on his way to a 3-hour drive home. Anyway, he got quite friendly with me and asked me if he could stay over. I told him no. He practically pleaded. It turns out that he is still in love with me, he wanted just one more night to be with me, blah blah blah. I again told him no and that we had both moved on and that it wouldn't be a good idea. He started with the "I don't know how you women can be that way." I told him that I don't know about other women, I just know how I feel.

I sent him packing and didn't email him all week. I noticed a message from him yesterday. He just wanted to know if I was okay and if I was still angry. I told him I wasn't really angry. I'm not. I'm disappointed. I feel like he betrayed my trust. I trusted him to be over this and to be my friend. He said he was. Now I feel that we can't see each other anymore. I don't want to. I have no feelings for him anymore. I was involved with him at a time when I was very vulnerable. It shouldn't have happened back then. It took a lot for me to get past the guilt and to move on. I can't go back to that. It makes me very sad. I don't think I'm cut out to be with any man. I guess it's because I really don't need them and do fine on my own. I don't have time for their needyness and emotional baggage.